A HOLY PURSUIT

Book Review: “Women’s Ministry in the Local Church” by J. Ligon Duncan and Susan Hunt

All, Local Church, Christian LivingDianne JagoComment

When God called Ethan into full-time ministry, my focus, desires, and calling also shifted from para-church ministry to the local church. I knew pastoral ministry is weighty and would require our family to be all in on this new mission. Prayerfully and thoughtfully considering women’s ministry at 5 Bridges Church is one way that I’ve been able to come alongside my husband. Thankfully, over the last ten years, God allowed me to serve in women’s ministry both in local churches across the US and continuously through Deeply Rooted Magazine (our former parachurch ministry). Every good and bad experience up to this point has helped shape our philosophy of ministry for women in the local church.

We knew a lot of what we didn’t want. We wanted to avoid operating a ministry that is:

  • Lacking Biblical Precedence

  • Event-driven

  • Consumeristic

  • Watered down

  • Personality-driven

  • Me-focused

  • Burdensome to the pastors, church, and volunteers

Rather, we desire a ministry that is:

  • Scripturally-supported

  • Quality-focused rather than quantity-focused

  • Kingdom-oriented

  • Scripturally-sound

  • God honoring

  • Sustainable in the long term

I picked up a copy of “Women’s Ministry in the Local Church” by J. Ligon Duncan and Susan Hunt last summer, and after reading a few chapters, I knew this was a book I wanted the other elder’s wives at our church to read through together. Our group of older and younger women recently finished the book, and I decided to write an honest book review to share what I loved and learned.

Overall, this has been an amazing encouragement to read, as I’ve definitely faced an increasing amount of discouragement in seeing the trajectory of many women’s ministries today. I’m grateful for the advice given from both a pastoral perspective and from a woman who has faithfully served other women and submitted to the elders at her church for decades. It is worth mentioning that this is written by two authors so there is some repetitiveness in the chapters and I also will point out that the authors are Presbyterian (I am a reformed Baptist) so whiles some of our theology overlaps, covenant theology is a theme throughout the book. That said, I definitely recommend this book to any Christian woman who is looking to start her own local church ministry or is currently serving in one.

LASTING FOUNDATIONS

The book is broken down into two parts: an introduction that explains the story, the need, and the motive for women’s ministry. The second part of the book is the apologetic, or rationale, for why we need women’s ministry in the local church. I really appreciate that each of their reasons has Biblical support explaining their why. The reality for any church ministry is that there need to be clearly defined reasons for why the ministry is in existence and how it supports the local church as a whole. When churches don’t have a clearly defined mission, they might start new programs just to fill a time slot or to please people, all the while creating siloed ministries that compete with the church as a whole.

The foundations for women’s ministry as outlined in this book are:

  • Submission (to the pastor and elders): 1 Timothy 2:9–15

  • Compassion: 1 Timothy 3:11

  • Community: 1 Timothy 5

  • Discipleship: Titus 2

  • Scripture: 2 Timothy 3:1–17

BIBLICAL OVERSIGHT

I greatly appreciate that this book takes a complementarian stance on Scripture, and I love that they include the Danver’s statement in the appendix of their book. The authors give a clear explanation for how the created order affects women’s roles within the church, which ultimately leads to how one operates their women’s ministry. They write:

Will the church conform her values to the prevailing cultural mores and norms, or will we impact and influence and shape our culture? ... Is our pattern in the church going to be to do a hermeneutical twist whenever we come to an issue where the Bible’s teaching makes us culturally uncomfortable, or are we going to let the lion loose, let God be God, and let His Word speak and rule in our lives? So, fundamentally, this is a scriptural authority issue. Just think how women’s ministry has the capacity of dealing with that in a unique way (page 132).

In other words, when we don’t get women’s roles right, we will not get women’s ministry right. They call the complementarian vs. egalitarian issue a “watershed moment” (p. 78), arguing that one’s view will determine “whether we have an integrative or independent ministry. The corporate application of this passage is that a women’s ministry should be under the authority and oversight of the elders in the church.”

Sadly, there are many churches who are complementarian in name and whose leadership might say they have oversight, but in all actuality are hands-off, only reviewing on a surface level but not actually sitting through meetings, studies, or reading the books women are studying, recommending, and passing around to one another. Rather than viewing a pastor’s cautious oversight as a lack of trust in the women’s ministry team, we should view this through the lens of the pastor’s shepherding heart, knowing that he is the one who God will hold accountable to fulfill the job of shepherd, watchman, and protector of the flock. Women ought to see their pastor’s active involvement in their women’s ministry as a sign of their shepherd love and care for them.

WOMEN’S MINISTRY STARTS IN HER HOME

Another thing I like about this book is the emphasis on the Titus 2 community. So often, women’s ministry can become programmatic, but Titus 2 relationships are forged in the everyday spheres of life, coupled with opportunities to use our spiritual gifts in service to the church. The authors remind women that:

"domestic duties are not a hindrance to sanctification; they are essentials of the common life. The family is a context in which to develop godly character that will qualify women for service beyond hearth and home.”

Prominent Christian women today may be effective communicators with some bible knowledge, but I would be curious how many, in their frequent serving those outside their home and through their phone screens, neglect their role to be helpers to their husbands, trainers of their children, and keepers of their home? They may give an appearance of godliness but their actions deny the very message they promote. I don’t write this in judgment but rather out of a desire to encourage and challenge Christian women to spend all her energy building a kingdom outside her home while tearing down her own home in the process (Proverbs 14:1). The authors wisely remind us that “it is obedience in the common duties of family life that will prepare her to one day tell women that God created us to be helpers and redeemed us to be life-givers in every situation and relationship, in every time, place, and culture.” This is a message that Christian women, myself included, need to be reminded of again and again.

ADDRESSING WEAK WOMEN

One of my favorite chapters (no. 9) addresses the topic of weak women as found in 2 Timothy 3:6-7:

For among them are those who enter into households and take captive weak women weighed down with sins, being led on by various desires, always learning and never able to come to the full knowledge of the truth.

I believe we have a severe “weak women” problem in our society today (2 Timothy 3:6-7). The influence of false teachers pervade Christian media and have crept into our churches, social media feeds, and books. While our society might label her a “strong woman” because she is self-aware, self-reliant, and does what is right in her own eyes, the Bible defines her as weak.

The authors write:

“One wonders about the sins that burdened these women and led them astray. It seems obvious that they were not functioning under ecclesiastical authority. It is unlikely that they were spending their time in ministries of covenantal compassion. Their doctrine of community was faulty because they were willing to follow divisive teachers. They apparently were not involved in discipleship relationships with godly women who would guide them to maturity. Their lives were already inconsistent with the principles of biblical womanhood, so their propensity was to follow the false rather than the true. These women were lovers of self and not lovers of God; so they were life-takers and not life-givers. Once immature women are captured by unsound doctrine, they begin a never-ending, self-indulgent quest for knowledge.”

Sadly, there are too many weak women trapped in this pattern of living. Their rejection of sound teaching and preaching sends them chasing after false teachers and messages that fit her desired narrative. The result of bad theology is bad fruit and it’s no wonder these women are plagued with all kinds of sin, anxiety, and addictions. (To be clear, just because you battle with depression or anxiety doesn’t necessitate that you are a Biblically-defined weak woman, but a Biblically defined weak woman is guaranteed to become “burdened” with many sins to include the above sins.)

The weak woman is not the only one to blame, but the pastors who fail to preach the full counsel of God’s Word and fail to hold the women in their church accountable. When a pastor neglects his role to feed the flock, what follows are spiritually anemic women’s ministries which create spiritually anemic Christian women. The homes of these weak women (and their weak husbands) become petri dishes for all kinds of sin to multiply and Satan loves nothing more than to destroy whole families from within. Pastors, churches and women’s ministries must do better. We have a unique opportunity through women’s ministry to equip women with the discernment they need to combat this growing epidemic.

Conclusion

We need more solid women’s ministries that will challenge women to walk worthy of their calling. While I’ve seen some bad ones, I have witnessed some healthy ones too. Ours is still in the infant stages, but thanks to the elders and their wives, we have a clear mission to guide us as we grow. This book has helped challenge and motivate me to pursue a healthy women’s ministry that encourages, equips, and mobilizes the women at 5 Bridges Church. While these are just a few topics addressed, and there is still so much more I can say on this topic, I challenge you to reframe your mind about the purpose of women’s ministry. And if you’re involved with women’s ministry at any level, I wholeheartedly recommend this book as a great place to start as you navigate the need for a healthy women’s ministry in your local church.


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How to Take Better Cell Phone Photos

PhotographyDianne JagoComment

I normally bring my DSLR camera with me whenever I go on a trip, but in an attempt to pack a bit lighter and be present with our family, I decided to leave it to leave it home. It’s been said that “the best camera if the one that you have” and while that is debated, cell phone cameras have come a very long way. While I didn’t go out of my way to take artsy photographs, I did capture some moments in a more thoughtful way with my cell phone as I saw an opportunity. I enjoyed the challenge and found myself practicing the very tips I do with my DSLR. Here are some random cell phone photos from our family trip to Ana Maria Island, along with some tips about how to take better cell phone pictures.


Look for good lighT

This one was a quick snap because of the girls’ movement but I wanted to catch my nieces in the moment. When kids notice someone taking a picture, their smile generally changes and is more of a cheesy grin. Those photos can be cute but I wanted to capture what was happening in that moment.

Notice there aren’t any eyes squinted because the sun is too bright. There also aren’t weird shadows casted underneath the eyes or under the chin that typically comes when shooting at high noon. This was taken just before sunset and it was a partially cloudy day which just softens everything. I love the colors of the scene and ended up taking several photos in this spot because the lighting was just perfect!

In this example, while there isn’t lighting from the sun, there is decent lighting. What you don’t want, however, is mixed lighting whether that be from the sun and a lamp or from two different types of lamps. (Every artificial light has its own temperature color…some are warm and some are cool so when you mix things it requires special editing to fix the colors. If you’re in one of those situations, you’re better just editing the photo to be black and white.)


MAINTAIN straight lines

Unless you’re trying to purposefully shoot at an angle, I always try to keep my ceiling and floor lines balanced as it helps the photo appear cleaner and neater. This was something a photography mentor taught me years ago and I can’t help but notice when the lines are slightly angled or off in other people’s photos.

Here’s another example of shooting straight lines but while being outside. Notice the lines on the buildings are vertical and the horizon line isn’t angled. Sometimes an easy fix to angled lines is to either move your feet or just tilt the camera a little more forward or backward. You can also do minor adjustments in post processing software like Adobe Lightroom.


Use Portrait Mode for Focused Scenes

This was when my niece decided she wanted to get her ears pierced. Notice her cute, concerned look-ha! She didn’t actually end up going through with it but this was a sweet moment with a lot going on. By utilizing my camera’s portrait mode, I was able to focus on my niece and catch her parent’s expression, while blurring out the ear-piercer in the foreground. Shooting like this helps you see what is happening throughout the scene while drawing your eye to the main subject.

Also, do note: I don’t have the latest and greatest iPhone but my 14Pro does shockingly well in portrait mode. Your phone may be different but all I have to do is touch the subject and it will lock the focus into place.


Think about Composition

Okay, I’ve seen way too many reels where people are trying to film or photograph and animal and then the animal attacks them. I tried to proceed with caution knowing it was me against all these birds but I survived.

Composition is how one chooses to frame a subject within the photo. I could’ve photographed them with the water in the background but I really wanted to keep the warm colors of the sand and the white feathers of the birds together. I also loved how the three birds on the right fell in line when I stood at this angle. Also, notice how the number of birds is balanced throughout the photo. Because the 3 birds are closer to the camera, they appear bigger than the 4 that are further, yet it all works out nicely because the length of space they take up in the picture is similar.

Cora scooped up a pile of shells and from a normal vantage point, it looked nothing more than that. She then turned to me and said, “Mom! It’s a heart!” I told her not to move and snapped this picture. In the art world, having “eyes to see” means noticing patterns, shapes, textures, and more.

Rather than shooting from eye level, I chose to position my phone camera over top of her to get this shot. I also think this photo look extra cool because of the colors and pattern of the jacket my daughter borrowed from her cousin. The beauty happens when a lot of small beautiful details come together in one space.


Catch People in the MomenT

In this photo, my mother-in-law just told her son-in-law that she had a really great trip with him. It was a cute moment and I immediately pulled out my camera and said, “Let’s commemorate this with a picture!” There were natural smiles all around and this is probably one of my favorite pictures from the trip. (Again, here is portrait mode for the win.)


STICK WITH A COLOR PALETTE

Ok, this is definitely a preference and more of an opinion but it’s something that has helped me develop consistency within my own photographs. Many years ago, I wondered why my photos weren’t as consistent as some of the photographers I followed, but as I studied their photos I realized that their style was carried into their home, location choices, lighting, and wardrobe.

Focusing specifically on wardrobe, I’ve found that when you stick to a certain color palette, not only does it make your entire wardrobe work as a mix and match capsule wardrobe, but it also means everyone in the family generally matches. Even though I love earth tones, this concept applies with any color palette. If bright purple is your favorite color, find ways to always incorporate purple and you will find consistency in your photographic style, website, and feed. Notice how colorful my niece’s outfit is and yet it still matches a neutral palette. (There are ways to integrate color without it overtaking everything.)

When it comes to dressing kids, I’ve tried to strike a balance between what I like and what my kids like. As my kids have gotten older and developed their own personality, I never want to force them to be a copy and paste version of myself. This tip may seem absolutely ridiculous to some to which I would tell you that I completely understand why. Some may say this is too controlling or inorganic but we’ve made a slow shift as we’ve needed things and just been more intentional in our selection. This should never be a major point of contention within a family. My daughter still sports the occasional tiger shirt and my son lives in his soccer jerseys. :)


Don’t Stress

In between some of my favorites pictures are a few throw aways. Know that not every picture will turn out as you envision it and that’s okay. There are just certain shots that I believe are better with a DSLR, but there are a lot of great shots we don't give our cell phone cameras credit for. Take the picture and move on. Don’t stress about it (otherwise, your subjects will feel the stress and that will be reflected in the photo.) Have fun and get creative, but don’t forget to live in the moment. I’ve gotten to the point where I know my camera so well that I can sneak the shot without it becoming an all encompassing moment that detracts from the good time my family is all having together.


One final note:

I still do edit my cell phone photos in Lightroom with my personal presets that I also use whenever I edit my DSLR photos. I’m thinking about possibly selling my go-to presets which have been years in the making. Let me know if that is something you might be interested in.

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Homeschool Holiday Handicraft Gift Exchange

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Part I: The Event

It still amazes me that last year we didn’t know of any other homeschool families in our area. I attempted to gather some moms together through a “Mommy and Me Playdate” at our church, and as fun as it was —my kids were such good sports about playing with toddlers—I know my kiddos longed to spend time with other homeschool kids their age.

God has grown our church since and we have a number of families (kids of all ages) who homeschool. What a blessing! And so this year, I started a small co-op for members of our church who also homeschool and our monthly gatherings have been such a blessing. So far, we’ve learned about medicinal plants from a Florida state park ranger, learned about beekeeping from a local bee farm, and finished the year with a handmade gift exchange!

The idea behind this exchange was to make something (less than $5) that you can easily make multiples of for the kids in your age category. We had three groups:

  • Elementary (Kindergarten through 5th grade)

  • Students (Middle & High School)

  • Moms

This turned out to be such a fun event and we were all surprised how creative and thoughtful each person’s gift was. Each person had to “present” there gift and share about the process of making it or how it could be utilized. Some of the kids were nervous to share but it gave them an opportunity to practice a casual form of public speaking. As our homeschool group continues to grow, we will certainly have to scale our events accordingly. My secret dream is to have a “handicraft market” where they can practice business skills by making, selling, and bartering their items.


Part II: The Gifts

Peppermint Playdough

Skye wanted to make play dough so we made two colors (natural and red), added in some glitter, and peppermint oil. We rolled it up and sliced it so it would look a little like a piece of candy.

Ninja Stress Balls

These stress balls were a little stressful to make, ha! Made of flour and balloons, we had a lot of fun as we saw them come together one by one. Cora drew on all the eyes and the kids loved them!

Leather Cord Holders

Kaiden wasn’t sure what to make and so we found a tutorial on Pinterest to make these leather cord holders. They are actually super handy and now I want a bunch for all around our house. The hardest part of this process is hammering the buttons on. I did discover through this process that I do enjoy working with leather which led me to create my gift for the other moms…

Leather Key Chains

I stamped the words “Coram Deo” which means “living in the presence of God” along with their initials on the other side.

Lavender Bath Bombs

I also had a lot of fun making these. The lavender buds are from a friend’s home in California and the calendula flowers are from my Summer garden. I haven’t tried them out but my friend who received one said they are heavenly. I will have to take her word for it!

These are not all the gifts the other kids made but this does show you some of the creativity of them! Pictured: Homemade Cookies (from a family that use to sell their cookies at Whole Foods!), custom pet portrait ornament, leather bookmark, hot chocolate bomb, and clay coin holder.

Lastly, here are the gifts the other moms made: crocheted beanie, shell necklace, dried orange ornament, orange kombucha, clay ornament set, and a knitted coffee sleeve. This event was a success and I’m so grateful to each child and parent who put so much into this exchange proving once more that homeschooling can be such a creative endeavor. I’m overjoyed that God has brought these families to 5 Bridges and am grateful to have a community of friends doing this homeschool journey alongside me. Soli Deo Gloria.